Monday's Marriage Moment - Play Dress Up!

As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
-Proverbs 5:19

When I was a child I liked to watch cartoons. One of the characters was Wile E. Coyote. This coyote spent his entire life chasing a character called Road Runner. For years, I watched Wile E. have anvils dropped on his head, get blown up, and fall off of cliffs chasing Road Runner. Then one day to my surprise, Wile E. Coyote caught the Road Runner. You would think that he would have planned what to do once he caught him, but instead he held up a sign that said, "Now What". It's comical as a cartoon, but this happens all of the time in our lives, especially our marriages.

When we are dating we dress nice, smell good, and put our best foot forward. We keep our hair and nails done, and we speak so kindly to our potential spouse. Then we "get" our husbands, and like Wile E., we wonder now what? We think marriage is the finish line when actuality it is a journey. We get settled and stop doing the things that catch their attention and keep them excited about being with us. This is a cause of lots of stress and issues in marriages, and it is so preventable.

My husband called me the other night on his way home, and we were just talking in general. However, before he hung up he said, "Hey! Be dressed like you have a husband when I get home". Now, I could have gotten offended, but I didn't. I heard what he said. He wasn't asking to see me in my professional clothes or dressed to go to a formal event. He was asking me not to have on my old pajama bottoms and t-shirts that don't match. He wanted me to have something on that appealed to him, and I should want that too.

He doesn't necessarily want me to have on the pair of 3 inch heels and my birthday suit everyday when he comes on (actually, he probably does), but he doesn't want to come home to a bonnet and a moo moo everyday either. Let's not forget that our spouses are attracted to what they see. Give them something to look at. Don't just dress up for them - the people that you see at work, church, and out with your friends -- dress up for him!

I want my husband to be attracted to me, and I am sure that you want your spouse to be attracted to you too. Whether you are a size 2 or 22 isn't the issue. Your husband likes you. He likes how you look, and he definitely wants to look at you. Men are typically are appealed to visually so give him something to look at!