And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Romans 12:2
Petty Crocker. Petty Labelle. Petty and Pretty. Saved and Petty. We have come up with cute, trendy sayings to normalize being petty. We glorify pettiness as if achieving grand levels makes us special. The truth is it makes us pitiful. Pettiness is the opposite of powerful, and it is sabotaging relationships left and right.
Pettiness shows up in our marriages in various ways, but the results are the same - destruction and separation. We play the petty game by giving our spouses the silent treatment, playing "keep away" with intimacy, and trying to keep score with activites - I cooked dinner last night so you cook tonight, or you went out last weekend so I am going out this weekend. Our attempts at being petty cause chaos, confusion, and distance in our relationships. It's time to stop.
Stop glorifying being petty. Stop giving it a place in your marriage. Stop stooping to low levels to win at a game that causes both parties to lose. Stop it. Choose to overlook offenses. Decide to love even when your spouse is on your nerves. Determine that you will not give your spouse the silent treatment because you didn't get your way. Marriage isn't a game to be played. It's a journey to be taken together. You win together, or you lose together.
Petty really means childish. It means trivial and of little importance. Is that what we want to focus on in our marriages...being childish and trivial? The world's standards do not work for godly marriages. Allow God to transform your mind.You can't be the queen of petty and have a solid marriage. You are going to be petty or powerful, but you can't be both. Which do you choose?
It's time to go from petty to powerful. It's time to rise up and be the wife that God designed you to be. You can be a believing wife, but that requires you to live a believing life. Get out of agreement with petty, and get into agreement with God.
What one thing will you do to go from petty to powerful in your marriage?
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