An excellent wife is the crown of her husband,
But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 12:4
I grew up playing checkers with my dad. Normally, he would win as he had more experience than I did, but I still loved to play with him. Even though I rarely, if ever, won I remember the highlight being when I somehow made it to the opposite end of the checkerboard. I would boldly declare, "king me"! I loved it when he put that other checker on top of mine in the act of "crowning me". See, making it to the other side didn't make me win the game, but I knew when he crowned me I would be afforded more freedom. I could move in different ways than I could before the crown. I could jump more pieces. That crown guaranteed that I had more opportunity and more power.
What does that have to do with marriage, you ask? Everything! You have the amazing responsibility of crowning your husband! You get to bring out the king in him. You get to afford him the opportunity to move and advance to more places with less effort! Girl, you better crown your king!
He has worked hard to make it to whatever place he is currently. The battle is not over, and there is more to do, but when you crown him you give him more freedom, authority, and access to be all that God has called him to be.
The natural question, then, is how do I crown him? I'm glad you asked. First, you live a life that is pleasing to God. You live in a way that brings God honor AND your husband honor. You represent the kingdom AND your husband well. Then you bring out the king in him. That means that you speak to him like he is God's child - because he is. You ensure that your words are grace seasoned with salt - not nagging, complaining, or being contentious. You make sure that he feels loved and appreciated. You make your home and place that he is glad to come home to. You take care of your man. I know that sounds outdated and antiquated, but I believe that it is God's desire that we take care of our husbands. I don't mean that we are slaves or that they sit home while we work and do everything, but I do believe that it means that we take care of their needs and make their jobs as head of our homes easier.
Bottom line - you are the crown! You are a symbol of the power and authority that he possesses. Will you adorn him with beauty or shame? Will you rise to the occasion, excellent wife? Will you bring out the king in your husband?
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