Monday's Marriage Moment -- It's Going to be Alright!

It's going to be alright. Every now and then you simply need someone to tell you that is going to be alright. They may not have the answer, but just hearing those words can provide some sense of comfort. That's how I felt this weekend when John and I received some challenging news. It wasn't the type of news that rocks you to your core like someone's death or hospitalization, but it was the kind of news that makes you anxious or worried. The kind of news that shatters your plans and reminds you that you really aren't in control.

I think this is why God gave us marriage. He knew that life was going to throw you curve balls. He knew that sometimes it is just hard, and He knew that you needed a person to go through it with you. Yes, He has given us great friends, and they have their place, but there are some things that only the one intimate with you can share. He knew that there would be some mountains that you had to climb together. He knew that there would be battles that would require you to stand in partnership to fight. The bible says this in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12:

Two are better than one,

Because they have a good reward for their labor.

For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.

But woe to him who is alone when he falls,

For he has no one to help him up.

Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;

But how can one be warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.

And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

In marriage, we get to help each other through. When I am weak, John is strong and vice versa. The beautiful thing is that we don't have to do this alone. We don't have to walk through the darkness by ourselves. So, this weekend I experienced the beauty of not having to carry the load by myself. Where in years past I would have gone into panic mode, I rested. I leaned on the man that God has given me. Yes, I know the word. Yes, I have a wonderful relationship with God through Christ. But God provided me what I needed through my husband this time. I asked him one simple question: Is it going to be alright? His response was also simple: It's going to be alright. He didn't judge me. He didn't question my faith. He didn't remind me that I am an ordained elder or the founder of Believing Wives. He provided me a safe place to just have a moment. He simply assured me. For now, that is enough. 

I believe the words God used my husband to tell me. I am not worried or anxious. I am trusting. It is my prayer not only that your husband provides comfort and assurance to you, but I pray that you provide comfort and assurance for him. Make your marriage a safe place where you can have open and honest conversation about your challenges and fears as well as your triumphs and victories. I pray that you take advantage of any opportunity God gives you this week to demonstrate that it's going to be absolutely alright.