Instead of your [former] shame you will have a double portion;
And instead of humiliation your people will shout for joy over their portion.
Therefore in their land they will possess double [what they had forfeited];
Everlasting joy will be theirs.
-Isaiah 61:7-9 (AMP)
I am not ashamed.
I am not ashamed that John and I had lots of struggles when we first got married. I am not ashamed that we had financial issues. I am not ashamed that we had a repossession. I don't carry shame from the infidelity, and I don't carry the shame that I wasn't a good wife - I didn't prioritize him. I withheld sex often. I was manipulative and controlling. I didn't keep the house like I should have, and I didn't take care of home first. I am not ashamed.
Well...I am not ashamed anymore.
I used to be. I carried shame and guilt around like Linus (from the Peanuts cartoon) carried his blanket. I hid it behind my intellectual abilities. I hid it behind my ability to speak and encourage others. I hid it as much as I could, but it was always there...and it made me afraid...afraid that people would find out what my life was really like...the pain I really had...I think I was most afraid that people would see that I was imperfect. I was afraid they would see that John and I didn't have it together.
I wore the mask because I was a leader, and I had an image that I thought I should uphold. I hid my shame because telling my stuff was also telling someone else's stuff. But I reached a point that hiding it was no longer an option. I realized that shame was destroying me, and I found someone that I could share with. I found accountability, and I wasn't looking for it at the time, but I found an amazing amount of acceptance with God and people.
God redeemed me. He freed me and John from so much - including the things that I carried shame for above. He showed me that I am not what I did or what was done to me. For all that shame that I carried for all those years, He has given me double, and, oh, He has given me so much joy.
I'm writing this today so that you know two things: 1) you are not alone and 2) you can overcome. Shame is a tool the enemy uses to keep you from healing (and more detrimental to him) helping someone else to heal. That's my goal - to help someone else. I've learned over the years, and it was driven home to me even the more this weekend, that God uses our lives to help others. All those painful things that I went through were not wasted, and every time I share my story (and my victory) some wife can find hope and healing.
So, I now scream those things that I was afraid to even whisper about back then. I shout to those who will listen all those painful things that I once held secret. I'll tell it over and over again, if it means that just one person find their freedom, their voice, and the desire to help someone else.
Dear Sister, find a friend, a counselor, or a trusted adviser, and release the weight of shame - whatever form of it is trying to make you hide - abuse, infidelity, molestation, financial issues, depression. If you don't have anybody that you can trust, I'm here. Send me a message. Respond to this post. The goal is that you find the freedom that God so sincerely wants you to have. You don't have to hide. Shame and guilt don't belong to you. Let it go. Start slowly if you have to, but please start today.
If this resonated with you, leave a comment that my help another sister or a prayer request. We are stronger together!
Monday, February 18, 2019
Monday, February 11, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - You Still Have It! You Just Can't See It!
Jesus said, “Mark my words, no one who sacrifices house, brothers, sisters, mother, father, children, land—whatever—because of me and the Message will lose out. They’ll get it all back, but multiplied many times in homes, brothers, sisters, mothers, children, and land—but also in troubles. And then the bonus of eternal life! This is once again the Great Reversal: Many who are first will end up last, and the last first.”
Mark 10:29-31 (MSG)
Someone broke into my daughter's car. When she called me she was understandably upset. She was missing money, a gift card, her bluetooth, and other items, but more importantly her privacy was invaded. When she called to tell me this I got angry.
I told her, "They may have taken your things, but don't let them take your joy. Don't let them steal your day because of anger and frustration". Not long after this, she called me back and told me that her bluetooth was found! It hadn't been stolen, but it had gotten shuffled around so she didn't see it.
Here's my point: There are some things you thought you lost, but they have just been shuffled around so that you can't see them. You've allowed your peace, your joy, and even your love to be covered up by other stuff, but they are still there. You just might have to look to find it!
Maybe your life has been shuffled around by frustration. Maybe marital issues seem so large that they are covering up joy and peace. Perhaps, fatigue is making your vision cloudy or pain has distorted your view, but I tell you if you look for your stuff you will find it!
Don't let what has happened in your marriage, or your life, cause you to forget what you have!
Don't let anger cause you to lose one more moment. Don't let hurt cause you to live in the past. Don't let missing someone or something cause you to not appreciate what is right in front of you.
Don't let the enemy have one more minute of your time. You still have so much!
And here is the kicker: Jesus promises in our verse above that if something was left or lost because I was seeking Him, He'll give it back and then some. Did you read the verse above? It says that it will be multiplied!
Keep doing what's right. Appreciate what you have, and make the most of the time that you are given. God is going to restore whatever you've lost in service to Him.
Your job is to hold on to what you already have!
Mark 10:29-31 (MSG)
Someone broke into my daughter's car. When she called me she was understandably upset. She was missing money, a gift card, her bluetooth, and other items, but more importantly her privacy was invaded. When she called to tell me this I got angry.
I told her, "They may have taken your things, but don't let them take your joy. Don't let them steal your day because of anger and frustration". Not long after this, she called me back and told me that her bluetooth was found! It hadn't been stolen, but it had gotten shuffled around so she didn't see it.
Here's my point: There are some things you thought you lost, but they have just been shuffled around so that you can't see them. You've allowed your peace, your joy, and even your love to be covered up by other stuff, but they are still there. You just might have to look to find it!
Maybe your life has been shuffled around by frustration. Maybe marital issues seem so large that they are covering up joy and peace. Perhaps, fatigue is making your vision cloudy or pain has distorted your view, but I tell you if you look for your stuff you will find it!
Don't let what has happened in your marriage, or your life, cause you to forget what you have!
Don't let anger cause you to lose one more moment. Don't let hurt cause you to live in the past. Don't let missing someone or something cause you to not appreciate what is right in front of you.
Don't let the enemy have one more minute of your time. You still have so much!
And here is the kicker: Jesus promises in our verse above that if something was left or lost because I was seeking Him, He'll give it back and then some. Did you read the verse above? It says that it will be multiplied!
Keep doing what's right. Appreciate what you have, and make the most of the time that you are given. God is going to restore whatever you've lost in service to Him.
Your job is to hold on to what you already have!
Monday, February 4, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - Release Control! (Marriage Killer #3)
Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all [a]speak the same thing, and that there be no [b]divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.
1 Corinthians 1:10
John decorated our family room. That may not mean much to you, but it is a big deal to me. I have a certain way I like things. I had pictures in my mind of what I wanted each room to look like, but we decided that I would decorate the living room and he would decorate the family room. I didn't realize what I had agreed to.
He currently has floating shelves with Marvel, Starwars, and all sorts of characters. There are bookshelves of videos and board games. There is a Coca-Cola clock in the shape of a drink with bubbles and a straw hanging in the corner - a Coca-Cola clock, you guys!
Every now and then, I walk in to the family room and make a suggestion to him about what I think should look different. Some days my suggestions are subtle. Other days they are kind of in your face. Either way, he reminds me that he is decorating this room - not me.
My need to insert my opinion or have something to say about the room is showing my need to feel in control. See, even though we agreed that he would decorate that room himself I still want it to look the way I want it to look.
That's controlling.
We think control only shows up in trying to manage who someone talks to or where they go, but it shows up in so many ways in our marriages:
Control can easily lead to manipulation (where you try to make a situation work out a certain way or make a person do what you want them to do) and neither of these are godly. There will always be things that are outside of our control, and that definitely includes people. We must release the need to control and trust God to lead, guide, and protect us.
I am not to control him, and he is not to control me. We are to work together so that there are no divisions, or schisms, in our union. We are to be perfectly joined together. Am I going to let decor divide us?
So, I have a choice. Release control and enjoy peace or try to maintain control (which I clearly do not have, did I mention there is a Coke clock?) and create disorder.
I choose peace. I choose to focus on the fact that more than that ridiculous Coke clock, there is peace and joy in my home like never before. There is prayer and thanksgiving happening in my home like never before. There is laughter, lots of laughter, happening in my home like never before. It's a safe place for us, and we all need to be happy there.
I'm not just shutting my mouth. I'm releasing control. I'm not saying anything else about that room, which happens to actually be well-put together (even if it's a lot for me), clean, and planned down to the African statues in the corner. I'll release control and thank God that I have a husband and children to share this interesting room with. I'll release control and save my energy for a real battle because this is not one.
There are some things that you have to release control over. I encourage you to do it now. You will find so much peace when you do!
Are you controlling in an area? Be honest, and then release it to God. Get your heart right about it and walk in peace. Feel free to comment what the area is below knowing that I am praying for and with you!
1 Corinthians 1:10
John decorated our family room. That may not mean much to you, but it is a big deal to me. I have a certain way I like things. I had pictures in my mind of what I wanted each room to look like, but we decided that I would decorate the living room and he would decorate the family room. I didn't realize what I had agreed to.
He currently has floating shelves with Marvel, Starwars, and all sorts of characters. There are bookshelves of videos and board games. There is a Coca-Cola clock in the shape of a drink with bubbles and a straw hanging in the corner - a Coca-Cola clock, you guys!
Every now and then, I walk in to the family room and make a suggestion to him about what I think should look different. Some days my suggestions are subtle. Other days they are kind of in your face. Either way, he reminds me that he is decorating this room - not me.
My need to insert my opinion or have something to say about the room is showing my need to feel in control. See, even though we agreed that he would decorate that room himself I still want it to look the way I want it to look.
That's controlling.
We think control only shows up in trying to manage who someone talks to or where they go, but it shows up in so many ways in our marriages:
- trying to control what your spouse eats
- making subtle (or not so subtle) hints about how they should dress or look
- making decisions for them instead of with them
- trying to determine who their friends are
- telling them what to do and having a fit if things aren't done your way
Control can easily lead to manipulation (where you try to make a situation work out a certain way or make a person do what you want them to do) and neither of these are godly. There will always be things that are outside of our control, and that definitely includes people. We must release the need to control and trust God to lead, guide, and protect us.
I am not to control him, and he is not to control me. We are to work together so that there are no divisions, or schisms, in our union. We are to be perfectly joined together. Am I going to let decor divide us?
So, I have a choice. Release control and enjoy peace or try to maintain control (which I clearly do not have, did I mention there is a Coke clock?) and create disorder.
I choose peace. I choose to focus on the fact that more than that ridiculous Coke clock, there is peace and joy in my home like never before. There is prayer and thanksgiving happening in my home like never before. There is laughter, lots of laughter, happening in my home like never before. It's a safe place for us, and we all need to be happy there.
I'm not just shutting my mouth. I'm releasing control. I'm not saying anything else about that room, which happens to actually be well-put together (even if it's a lot for me), clean, and planned down to the African statues in the corner. I'll release control and thank God that I have a husband and children to share this interesting room with. I'll release control and save my energy for a real battle because this is not one.
There are some things that you have to release control over. I encourage you to do it now. You will find so much peace when you do!
Are you controlling in an area? Be honest, and then release it to God. Get your heart right about it and walk in peace. Feel free to comment what the area is below knowing that I am praying for and with you!
Monday, January 28, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - Marriage Killer #2 - Pride
Pride goes before destruction,
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
-Proverbs 16:18
It's been destroying relationships since the beginning of time - pride.
Pride caused Lucifer to be separated from God.
Pride caused King Saul to lose his kingdom and a great relationship with David.
Pride caused the Pharisees to miss the Messiah who was right in front of them.
That's what pride does. It destroys. It infiltrates relationships that could be powerful and effective and renders them powerless.
Pride divides - it separates.
You may be familiar with it's close relatives - envy and jealousy. You can be sure that wherever you find pride envy and jealousy are in close proximity. You will also certainly find strife nearby because once again, pride separates.
How does this show up in marriage? I'm glad that you asked. Pride makes you feel like your spouse owes you something. Pride makes you feel that you are right and your spouse is wrong. Pride keeps you from forgiving and asking for forgiveness. Pride keeps score, and somehow, it makes sure that the score is never tied. It keeps you in competition and not covenant. Strife - arguing, fussing, and discord - is a sure sign that pride is in play.
Pride is destructive. It causes us to be stubborn and stuck. Maybe you have never considered how pride can be at work in marriage, but I assure you it can. Many couples have ended up divorced not because they lacked love but because they were unwilling to humble themselves and work it out.
Marriage requires humility and submission - things that are the total opposite of pride. No matter what you have achieved, accomplished, or mastered, you still have to learn to submit to your spouse. There is a give and take in marriage that means in order for us both to win we have to be willing to let some things go and not win every argument.
Here are a few signs that pride has entered your heart regarding your spouse/marriage:
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
-Proverbs 16:18
It's been destroying relationships since the beginning of time - pride.
Pride caused Lucifer to be separated from God.
Pride caused King Saul to lose his kingdom and a great relationship with David.
Pride caused the Pharisees to miss the Messiah who was right in front of them.
That's what pride does. It destroys. It infiltrates relationships that could be powerful and effective and renders them powerless.
Pride divides - it separates.
You may be familiar with it's close relatives - envy and jealousy. You can be sure that wherever you find pride envy and jealousy are in close proximity. You will also certainly find strife nearby because once again, pride separates.
How does this show up in marriage? I'm glad that you asked. Pride makes you feel like your spouse owes you something. Pride makes you feel that you are right and your spouse is wrong. Pride keeps you from forgiving and asking for forgiveness. Pride keeps score, and somehow, it makes sure that the score is never tied. It keeps you in competition and not covenant. Strife - arguing, fussing, and discord - is a sure sign that pride is in play.
Pride is destructive. It causes us to be stubborn and stuck. Maybe you have never considered how pride can be at work in marriage, but I assure you it can. Many couples have ended up divorced not because they lacked love but because they were unwilling to humble themselves and work it out.
Marriage requires humility and submission - things that are the total opposite of pride. No matter what you have achieved, accomplished, or mastered, you still have to learn to submit to your spouse. There is a give and take in marriage that means in order for us both to win we have to be willing to let some things go and not win every argument.
Here are a few signs that pride has entered your heart regarding your spouse/marriage:
- you find lots of faults in your spouse
- you are more concerned with what your marriage looks like (image) than what it is like
- you can justify all of your actions but condemn the actions of your spouse
- you think your spouse owes you something/you deserve things
- you want all the attention
- you think you can fix everything/handle everything/do everything
- you do it all yourself because no one can do it like you want it done
- you are selfish
There are many more symptoms of pride, and I encourage you to ask God to search your heart and reveal any of them to you. Be vigilant to rid your life of any pride that you find. Humble yourself, and watch God work in your marriage.
Do you see any symptoms of pride in your marriage? What steps will you take to remove pride?
Monday, January 21, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - Marriage Killers (1 - No Borders)
Then I said to them, “You see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem lies waste, and its gates are burned with fire. Come and let us build the wall of Jerusalem, that we may no longer be a reproach.” And I told them of the hand of my God which had been good upon me, and also of the king’s words that he had spoken to me. So they said, “Let us rise up and build.” Then they set their hands to this good work.
-Nehemiah 2:17-18
Over the next few weeks, I will tackle several of the strategies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. You will find that you have experienced these or know a couple who has; most of them I have personally experienced as well. It is my hope that as we process these we will take action to ensure that our marriages survive every attack (and that we help save our friends and loved ones as well).
Marriage Killer #1 - No Borders!
God has established borders and boundaries. If we read the bible, we can see that He established borders for the land and the oceans (Job 38:10-11), boundaries for our behavior through the ten commandments (Exodus 20:2-17), and so much more.
Broken boundaries and nonexistent borders make it easy for the enemy to come and go as he pleases. He has access to things he should have no knowledge of because we have no boundaries.
Boundaries in an of themselves aren't bad. Borders can protect what we hold dear. They can establish what belongs to us and what doesn't. Again, borders aren't necessarily bad. It's our motivation behind having them and execution of them.
God has established borders for our marriages (we should love our spouse, we shouldn't commit adultery or withhold sex, etc.). It is, therefore, important that we set boundaries as well. Many of our marriages become rocky because we have no established borders for:
-Nehemiah 2:17-18
Over the next few weeks, I will tackle several of the strategies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. You will find that you have experienced these or know a couple who has; most of them I have personally experienced as well. It is my hope that as we process these we will take action to ensure that our marriages survive every attack (and that we help save our friends and loved ones as well).
Marriage Killer #1 - No Borders!
God has established borders and boundaries. If we read the bible, we can see that He established borders for the land and the oceans (Job 38:10-11), boundaries for our behavior through the ten commandments (Exodus 20:2-17), and so much more.
Broken boundaries and nonexistent borders make it easy for the enemy to come and go as he pleases. He has access to things he should have no knowledge of because we have no boundaries.
Boundaries in an of themselves aren't bad. Borders can protect what we hold dear. They can establish what belongs to us and what doesn't. Again, borders aren't necessarily bad. It's our motivation behind having them and execution of them.
God has established borders for our marriages (we should love our spouse, we shouldn't commit adultery or withhold sex, etc.). It is, therefore, important that we set boundaries as well. Many of our marriages become rocky because we have no established borders for:
- Finances - Do we separate our money and have individual accounts? Do we consult each other before spending money? Is there a limit to what we can spend without discussing it? How do we pay bills?
- Intimacy - Is your expectation that we have sex every night? Are there some things that we won't do when it comes to sex? How frequent should it be?
- Disagreements - Is it ok to raise our voices at each other? Will you stop talking for days because you are upset? Will you storm out of the house? How will we disagree?
Because we have no borders for these topics (and many more) we have unspoken (and therefore, unmet) expectations. This leads to more frustration which leads to more disagreements, decreased intimacy, and walls of separation instead of borders of protection.
It's not too late. You can start right now rebuilding the walls of your marriage. When Nehemiah saw that the walls that protected his home city were destroyed he set about rebuilding them. It was hard work, and he was under constant attack, but with the help of God and willing people the wall was rebuilt.
You can do the same. Rebuild your walls. It will take some work, but it is worth the effort to protect your marriage.
Monday, January 14, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - Not Today, Satan!
Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
-James 4:7
It's been an amazing weekend full of answered prayer and cherished moments. God has blessed my family tremendously in more ways than I can count, and I am overwhelmingly thankful. However, I am currently sitting on the couch looking like a crazy woman - literally. I have slept less than 15 hours all weekend. I had a crazy day at work, and I have much more to do before I lay down for the evening.
I'm not complaining. I'm actually sitting here contemplating how the enemy uses those times right after a great accomplishment or spiritual success to attack - to get us distracted or make us feel inferior, but not today, Satan. His tricks might have worked a few years ago, but not anymore.
I will maintain my peace.
I will maintain my joy.
It's mine. I will not give it away.
John and I completed something great - we accomplished a goal we had set for years, so it stands to reason that the enemy would try to frustrate us. He would try to distract us with little things. He would try to bring misunderstanding and impatience out of our late nights and early mornings.
But not today, Satan.
Yeah, I'm tired, but I will respond in love.
Yeah, my body aches, but I will do what needs to be done.
Yeah, I'm a little overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of me, but I will rely on God's strength in my weakness.
You will not win. Not today. I value my marriage too much to allow division to creep in. I value my family too much to be short and impatient with them just because I'm tired. I value my relationship with God too much to misrepresent Him with my actions or my words just because I am not at 100%.
Not today, Satan...and not tomorrow either.
-James 4:7
It's been an amazing weekend full of answered prayer and cherished moments. God has blessed my family tremendously in more ways than I can count, and I am overwhelmingly thankful. However, I am currently sitting on the couch looking like a crazy woman - literally. I have slept less than 15 hours all weekend. I had a crazy day at work, and I have much more to do before I lay down for the evening.
I'm not complaining. I'm actually sitting here contemplating how the enemy uses those times right after a great accomplishment or spiritual success to attack - to get us distracted or make us feel inferior, but not today, Satan. His tricks might have worked a few years ago, but not anymore.
I will maintain my peace.
I will maintain my joy.
It's mine. I will not give it away.
John and I completed something great - we accomplished a goal we had set for years, so it stands to reason that the enemy would try to frustrate us. He would try to distract us with little things. He would try to bring misunderstanding and impatience out of our late nights and early mornings.
But not today, Satan.
Yeah, I'm tired, but I will respond in love.
Yeah, my body aches, but I will do what needs to be done.
Yeah, I'm a little overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of me, but I will rely on God's strength in my weakness.
You will not win. Not today. I value my marriage too much to allow division to creep in. I value my family too much to be short and impatient with them just because I'm tired. I value my relationship with God too much to misrepresent Him with my actions or my words just because I am not at 100%.
Not today, Satan...and not tomorrow either.
Monday, January 7, 2019
Monday's Marriage Moment - Go Back!
The Angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress, and submit yourself under her hand.” Then the Angel of the Lord said to her, “I will multiply your descendants exceedingly, so that they shall not be counted for multitude.”
Genesis 16: 9-10
I left my position. No one took it from me. I willingly left it.
It's been years ago now, but there was a time in my life that being a wife was not my top priority. It's painful to admit now, but it is true. I let the position of wife come in second, third, (or sixth) to the other roles in my life.
I was "super" minister at church: I attended nearly every event. I was the church administrator, pastor's assistant, praise team member (and at one time leader), and even Chief Operations Officer. I taught children's church and was a part of several committees.
I was "super" teacher at school: I came to work early. I took work home. I served on several committees and lead my team and grade level. I taught the highest level students, and my students did well overall on their assessments.
I was "super" Debra. I went back to graduate school and earned my master's degree. I attended school on nights and weekends while working full-time and serving at church. I had my kids in all sorts of activities and sports; I made their performances and meetings.
I was "less than" wife. My husband got what was left of me. In all my deep spirituality, and in all of my helping others, I was neglecting one of the major roles that God has called me to. I was preaching messages of healing and hope, and my husband was feeling left out and neglected - and it was my fault.
God got my attention, and He began the process of me going back to His original plan. He showed me the error of my ways and how out of order I really was. In the process of putting my life back in order, I have had to say no to things that I would have said yes to. People have not understood and have said some very hurtful things to me because I have chosen my family first. But I will always choose them first.
The changes that I have seen over the years have been worth the pain of the lesson that I had to learn. There are times that I still have to check myself. There are times that John has to check me, but I hear him now - and I respond.
Go back, Dear Sister! Go back, to God's original plan for you as a wife. Just like Hagar had to go back to her role under Abram and Sarai, you have to go back to your role as a wife. That's where the blessing is - in submitting to that role. It's not always easy, and there won't always be applause, but that role is a priority, and God honors it. He will bless you as you obey Him as a wife.
You can't serve at church more than you serve at home. It's out of order. Period. You can't be a better employee or business owner than you are a wife. You can't be a better friend that you are a wife. Period. This is the time to put things in order. If you have placed things before your marriage, repent and get it back in order. This is the year of establishment, and we must start here.
Go back!
If you see that there have been times that you have allowed being a wife to fall in priority leave a comment. I am praying with you!
Genesis 16: 9-10
I left my position. No one took it from me. I willingly left it.
It's been years ago now, but there was a time in my life that being a wife was not my top priority. It's painful to admit now, but it is true. I let the position of wife come in second, third, (or sixth) to the other roles in my life.
I was "super" minister at church: I attended nearly every event. I was the church administrator, pastor's assistant, praise team member (and at one time leader), and even Chief Operations Officer. I taught children's church and was a part of several committees.
I was "super" teacher at school: I came to work early. I took work home. I served on several committees and lead my team and grade level. I taught the highest level students, and my students did well overall on their assessments.
I was "super" Debra. I went back to graduate school and earned my master's degree. I attended school on nights and weekends while working full-time and serving at church. I had my kids in all sorts of activities and sports; I made their performances and meetings.
I was "less than" wife. My husband got what was left of me. In all my deep spirituality, and in all of my helping others, I was neglecting one of the major roles that God has called me to. I was preaching messages of healing and hope, and my husband was feeling left out and neglected - and it was my fault.
God got my attention, and He began the process of me going back to His original plan. He showed me the error of my ways and how out of order I really was. In the process of putting my life back in order, I have had to say no to things that I would have said yes to. People have not understood and have said some very hurtful things to me because I have chosen my family first. But I will always choose them first.
The changes that I have seen over the years have been worth the pain of the lesson that I had to learn. There are times that I still have to check myself. There are times that John has to check me, but I hear him now - and I respond.
Go back, Dear Sister! Go back, to God's original plan for you as a wife. Just like Hagar had to go back to her role under Abram and Sarai, you have to go back to your role as a wife. That's where the blessing is - in submitting to that role. It's not always easy, and there won't always be applause, but that role is a priority, and God honors it. He will bless you as you obey Him as a wife.
You can't serve at church more than you serve at home. It's out of order. Period. You can't be a better employee or business owner than you are a wife. You can't be a better friend that you are a wife. Period. This is the time to put things in order. If you have placed things before your marriage, repent and get it back in order. This is the year of establishment, and we must start here.
Go back!
If you see that there have been times that you have allowed being a wife to fall in priority leave a comment. I am praying with you!
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